What to do when you or your best friend move thousands of miles apart? In the 21st century, when there are Internet and online services, the distance is not so scary, but this is still a different kind of relationship, friendship.
“Your old friend is almost like a diary of your life. He knows the person you were and the person you became, he understands you perfectly well and he doesn’t have to explain for a long time, ”says Dr. Irene S. Levin, a psychologist and author of the book“ Best friends forever: how to survive parting with the best friend. "
We will give just a few of her tips in order to understand how to keep friendship at a distance.
- Set a time to chat. This should be regular. Take time to call, write an email or a message to be aware of each other's life. “The exact frequency of communication varies from friendship to friendship, but you must discuss and agree on the time of your communication,” advises the psychologist. “It is important not to forget about such important days as birthdays, anniversaries, or just periods when special support is needed (loss of loved ones, divorce).”
- Make the communication more personal. Social networks are not bad, but what if you write a letter in the old manner - by hand? Yes, attach a joint photo 10 years ago. It really will be special. “Discuss how best to communicate. Maybe someone does not like Facebook, or it is inconvenient to correspond in working hours. ”
- Create new memories. “When it comes to maintaining friendship, old memories alone are not enough,” explains psychologist Dr. Levin. “Friends should have a tradition of creating new memories together.” For example, you can go to a cafe and be online, even in different countries, or you can agree to meet halfway between each other - between your cities.
- Show interest in each other's life, even just asking ordinary questions, but not limited to erased "How are you?".
- Be honest. “Admit that now everything will really change, that you will be far away and you will spend less time together. Realize this and help each other cope. ”