Everything that my husband and I have left in common

It was two months after the birth of our second child. We sat at the last table of the restaurant and ate from the same plate together, as we always did, but there was a feeling that things were no longer the same as in the good old days.

In fact, it was our first date after the birth of our second child, we were left alone for the first time and there was some awkwardness. We sat silently opposite each other, dipping crispy potatoes in cheese sauce and looking at people passing by the restaurant.
I'm tired, I have nothing to say, there are no interesting stories. We spent most of the evening in silence: he was watching a football match on the screen, and I was watching people.

And suddenly I remembered the funny trick of our child, told us, we laughed together and were silent again. By the end of such a meeting, I thought: after 5 years of marriage and 2 children, are our children all that we have in common?

We got married very young. I just turned 20, and he is only 2 years older. We were children, and soon had our own children. In our life so much has changed in a short time.

Some psychologists say that the biggest personality changes occur just in 20-25 years. And at 26 I realized how true it was.

When our second child was born a year ago, my husband and I were married for 5 years. We both were in the midst of our career changes and were no longer the people who said yes to each other.

Now almost a year has passed since our first date after the birth of her second child, and little has changed. Last weekend we celebrated our 6th anniversary wedding, but we still have nothing to talk about over dinner or on a long trip.

Sometimes I worry that time and motherhood made me a bore. Did all these personality changes have a good influence on me or made me an uninteresting date companion?

What else can I say except about changing dirty diapers or what our baby did when the husband was at work?

No one is to blame, that sometimes it seems that our marriage has come down to talking about children, housekeeping and money. There was a lot of good: again, children, new work, new home. But it is precisely this that has taken all our energy, time and attention, and our personal time now consists of felting on the sofa before going to bed.

The truth is, it's not as bad as it seems.Children are not bad. Together we have created our own family, and the nature of our relationship inevitably changed with the advent of children.

It is perfectly acceptable that our marriage became less exciting during these periods of life. I'm not unsure of my marriage. I know that my husband is devoted to me. I know that he is tuned only for all good.

And I hope he knows that I feel the same. I don't need him to entertain me, or that he always has something interesting to tell me.

But, of course, I'm not so naive as to understand that all this is good for our relations. At this stage it is quite normal to focus our lives around children, but this is temporary. Raising children is hard work, and we need something else to deal with. And when the children grow up, we will stay together, and I don’t want to be in bed with a stranger.

Therefore, at least the current state of affairs is normal, and no one is to blame for the fact that now it is difficult for us to find something in common, except for children, my fault will be in that if I leave it at that.

Frankly, I don’t know exactly how we will go further, but I know it’s time to go further.Maybe we just need to stay together more often, find a joint hobby without children. It's just time to take responsibility not only for your children, but also for your marriage.


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