How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

Anyway, the role of the father in raising a boy is more than mothers. Her task is to bring up her son in love, respect and harmony. But it is the father who can, by his own example, impart all the necessary qualities. The network has a lot of tips for parents of boys. But the text of Andrei Eremin is a manual for fathers without any embellishment.

How to give a child pocket money, how to develop independence, how to communicate with girls, about the importance of respecting the interests of the child, and in general about everything that concerns raising a boy. Andrew wrote candid advice for fathers, how to raise a son. Admittedly, the text even had to be edited - it was too “frank”.

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Want to make a child happy? Rent an apartment to him at 17, find a job with friends for 3-4 hours a day and go to visit once a week.And threaten that for school failure / university happiness will end, and the child will move to your home, where your rules will be. And by the age of 20, say that the money for your apartment is over, you are already old and you want to retire. And do not pay at all. By the age of 26 your child will call you and ask: “You don’t need money, can you help with what?”

Of course, before that, we must work. Till 5-7 years old a child should not have special freedom. You are the father, you are the chief, as he said, so it will be. And then you enter in parallel choices and responsibilities. Want to choose which clothes to wear? Wash your favorite jacket. Do you want to eat dumplings? Here's your dough, stuffing - lepi and cook. Do you want to walk till night? All lessons must be done, all that are given. And keep your word. A woman should love a child, anyone, and you should bring up. If you are offended, let your mother complain, but you will hear that mom says that papa is evil - discuss it with her, but so that the child does not see. Mum and dad always love each other and always agree.

There is no money for toys - this is the worst thing a child can say. The child will think that his parents are rogue and unlucky. A toy can not be because the child no longer needs toys.Enough of those that are. When you decide that he needs a new toy, then you will buy it. If the child really wants, let him do something to make it easier for you to earn money for a toy. The dishes will be washed for a week, the floor will be washed, the shelf will be attached while you work.

The absence of a media waste code for a child is less than 10 is useful. If this is normal in your family. And if you yourself sit for days at the TV, and the child - not, then what example would you give?

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Sections? Perfectly. Take it, show it, let it be like, do not like it - do not. He does not want to try - forty push-ups. My father said that we should try - let him try. Do not like it - something else. Do you like to sit in the yard? Sit down, just do your homework, and then go wherever you want. With utyrki under the fence, I must say, generally not interesting, except for the same utyrkov. And if your child knows how to kindle a fire, solder a robot and in five minutes draw a photo-realistic monster from the nearest cinema on the asphalt, much less he will have nothing to do on the benches. If you want to be interested in - show by example that you yourself understand something in art. Wants to tell - listen carefully.You will see that something is wrong, just say: here you are a good fellow, but here you need to work and it will be good. Sooner or later, the child will find what he is really in a rush, as he will find - rejoice, support, criticize, be interested.

Once you have twisted your pockets and found cigarettes, you will forever break a child’s trust in adults in general, and all your teachings will be perceived as nonsense. Came drunk? Sleeps under the door. Everything. No exceptions. Mother does not listen. Came later one night without warning - you sleep under the door. Solve your problems yourself, calling is not difficult, not drinking is also not difficult. One night at the door - and your child will start to try any unfamiliar substances, without providing 100% possible consequences.

Pocket money is holy. Let him do anything with them. His money. No control. Gave and forgot. Set a weekly (not daily), and even better monthly limit. And let him out of it. By the 8th grade, let this limit include school supplies such as notebooks, textbooks. Then - food in the canteen, then - clothes. To the institute, your child will already be able to distribute their finances in full: from food to long-term purchases like a computer, and even cars.Want more - tell me where to make money. And take an interest in this issue in advance, where the schoolchildren can earn money quickly and not particularly hard. Go fucking through the nearest car washes and ask if they need a boy, help for small money. Go through the local stations and ask if they need to sweep, hold it. In the hairdresser, ask if your child can sweep them on a regular basis. Yes, when everyone plays, and you work - it is insulting, but in an hour you will finish working and you will buy whatever you want with your money. This is such a thrill that it is unlikely that he would squander them for a drink, he would regret it, he would rather save on a skate and be the most alpha alpha, because he himself had earned, and not dad presented.

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And the most important thing is to be with him. You can even scold him with obscenities, if you have something for that, as long as you are together. But with outsiders, he has his honor, and you have your honor. And if your drunken korefan to your child is so carelessly “petty, drive for a beer quickly,” then the only correct answer is to say to the child: “You are not petty, you are my son, he asked rudely, you don’t want to — don’t go, I don’t need beer” .So that the child knows that you can and should stand up for your honor, and not stand, with your tongue stuck in one place. That he is not obliged to do services to anyone if he does not feel such a desire, except if he is in debt to someone.

Want to show your love to your child? Take a fishing trip. Go camping with him. Teach wallpaper to glue. Help me repair his moped. Lend a canoe and go swimming. Buy a Playboy and show naked women. Tell me how to refuse to drink. Learn to wash socks. So that when you die, your child on your birthday should drink 50 grams, cry and say: "Here I am sitting at the table, and we made him with Batya." Teach him to run and push ups. Teach him to play the guitar and beat the drums. Go to the concert with him. Tell us in the decade why some groups work and others do not. Listen to his music, say that it is cool, but you are more prone to your blackmite and give him money for headphones, so as not to trash the musicosphere in the house. Tell him what to do with the girl on the first date, on the second and the third, to give. Tell me how to buy condoms, show by example. Tell us why they are needed at all and how to use them. Go with the child for the flowers, explain what flowers you choose for your wife, why, and why you buy them.

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Give him a knife and teach him to sharpen, toss, to cut wood. Go with him to karate and learn to beat his face with him. Teach us to call names so that his friends will dry for hours when he opens his mouth for the purpose of precise bombing. Teach him how not to be afraid of elders. Teach him why you need to listen to other people, but not necessarily to obey, and in general, why does he have a noggin on his shoulders. Go to the hairdresser with him, let him make a fire red for yourself, tell me that your mother would kill you if you came home like that, but you like it. Yes, you just close your eyes and imagine for a moment that you have the coolest father in the world, and act according to how he should act.

And yes now indignations will fly in my direction.

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    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers

    How to raise a son: a manual for unadorned fathers