Clothes get dirty, furniture is covered with dust, carpets attract garbage to themselves, things stubbornly don’t want to be in their places - the world tends to be a mess. The law, known from school, is still working. So is it worth resisting the inevitable? Bitter experience tells you what it is worth. Otherwise, chaos absorbs our home, our family and ourselves. The situation gets out of control, and stress becomes our faithful companion. Sad picture, isn't it?
Then let's resist! To begin with, we take it as a fact: a disorder appears, there is nothing terrible in it, it is life. Our task is to apply forces to its elimination, that is, to strive for order.
And the first step towards streamlining our lives is planning. Planning a day, week, month. Budget planning, menu, shopping, cleaning. If you plan, not the situation will control us, but we will the situation.And, of course, we will start to do more, say goodbye to stress, because we will know in advance what and when we should do.
So, we arm with a pencil and replenish stocks of paper, because to learn how to plan, you need to learn how to record our affairs.
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WHAT PREVENTS PLANNING
Those who tried to live according to the plan, know: there are reasons that prevent us from planning. For example:
• perfectionism (you need to do everything perfectly and only we can deal with it);
• unwillingness to take responsibility (I wrote down the case - I have to do it, but it’s not a fact that it will work out, so it’s better not to write it down);
• lack of good skills, necessary habits (well, we did not learn something and do not know how in childhood).
But all this can be fixed!
You can defeat the perfectionist in yourself, starting with drawing up a minimum plan of affairs, a plan of small steps. Perfectionism rejects small steps, but each such step inevitably brings us closer to the goal. And even imperfectly done homework makes our home cleaner.
You can organize yourself and learn to be responsible.Just as you can learn to wash the dishes every night or brush your teeth before going to bed. Just worth a little persistence. At least 21 days (this is exactly how long it takes to acquire a habit). And you can start, for example, with the acquisition of such a good habit ...
10 MINUTES = 24 HOURS OF LIFE WITHOUT STRESS
Every evening, right after putting up the children, we will spend ten minutes planning tomorrow. A habit is either a bad mistress or a good servant. If we learn every day at least 10 minutes (a little, right?) To spend on planning, this will bring a lot of good in the future. After all, it is much more pleasant to wake up and go according to plan, and not to recall: “What should I do today?”
SIMPLE PLANNING OF THE DAY
Planning, for convenience, we divide our day into three blocks:
• and evening.
We indicate the approximate time segments of each block. In certain parts of the day we write down the necessary cases. So it will be easy for us to present our day as a specific set of cases.
Tasks can be grouped and thematically, tying to one block. For example, we do household chores in the morning: we clean, cook, wash, etc .; we dedicate the day to rest, walk, sleep with a child, etc .; evening - for family communication and preparing for tomorrow.
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The planning process can be facilitated by creating your own “command center”. This could be a board on the wall or some kind of shelf, drawer, case where all our records lie. It may be something complex and beautiful or something simple and unpretentious, but such a place should be that all our records are stored there, and it was easy for them to go back and check ourselves.
When planning cases for a week or a day, drawing up a menu, allocating a budget, you cannot do without lists. But this must be done wisely. The list should not be endless. It is better to make minimal lists.
If we have a minimum of tasks, we can always complete them. But even a minimum will advance us towards the goal of being more organized and planning things in advance. When we do what we have planned, we become more confident. We start to believe in our strength plus we get into the habit of fulfilling our plans. And, of course, when tasks are at a minimum, it is easier to overcome laziness and it is no longer scary to take on affairs.
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GOOD SKILL LEARNING TOGETHER WITH A CHILD
When we learn to plan our day, it would be nice to teach this to a child. A good option when the child also has a schedule. It can be presented more colorfully: pictures with the image of daily activities (lifting, washing, lessons). For each completed case, the child receives a sticker, and at the end of the week - a reward. Why not? This will help the child to imagine the day, structurally approach the tasks, grow more organized. Help your child learn to plan.
Every woman can be organized. Each can plan their time very effectively. You just need to learn. Learn to act systemically. Eat an elephant bit by bit daily. Find your own planning method that will be convenient for her.
Take the first steps towards planning by completing these tasks:
1. Highlight 10 minutes in the evening and write a plan for tomorrow: what you need to do in the morning, at lunch and in the evening. Try to fulfill the intended. If something does not work out - analyze why. If you can cope with the most part, be sure to praise yourself and reward with a chocolate :).
2Conduct an experiment: go to the store once with a list of necessary purchases, the second time - without such a list. Analyze your "losses".
3. Make a plan for the week. In addition to the necessary cases, do not forget to include in it specific actions that will help you take care of yourself and show love to your family members.
Important!No matter how we plan, we need to remember: plans for us, not us for plans. Therefore, adhering to the planned, we will be ready, if necessary, to show flexibility. It is more important to think about how to show love for our family, and not just fulfill the plan.
P.S. The article was written with the support of “Viburkol” - a natural anti-inflammatory and analgesic drug intended for children from 1 year old. After all, taking care of kids requires all-round attention, including, above all, the creation of a comfortable psychological atmosphere.